No, I’m Not Lucky

I can’t count the number of times people have told me that I’m “lucky” to have the lifestyle I have.  I’m not.  It’s easy to write it off as “luck”, but the truths are that: (1) my life is not as glamorous as it seems (at least not always); and (2) I work really, really hard.

I’ve had this discussion with a few of my friends who are also often labeled as “lucky” – and have heard some express frustration and anger over the label.  While I personally write it off as a misunderstanding, I think it’s worth explaining a few reasons why those of us who are labeled as “lucky” by many don’t have the same view of ourselves:

  1. You could probably do it too.  No, seriously.  It’s just a matter of defining your priorities and deciding what’s important to you.  Most of us don’t go shopping for new clothes often.  We don’t spend weekends at bars ordering overpriced drinks.  We work and we travel.  Caveat: Yes, of course I realize that not everyone could do it.  But the majority of people who have told me that I’m lucky could, and this post is directed at them.
  2. We don’t talk about how lucky you are when we see pictures of you getting drunk on a Friday night.  We have decided that we enjoy other things more than weekends partying.  It’s okay that you haven’t.  But your $10 cocktails add up – and we would rather spend that money going on an adventure.  We know that we could just as well blow money at bars and clubs, but we don’t want to, and we don’t call you lucky for making that choice.
  3. We actually work really hard.  I know… it’s hard to believe that from looking at our social media.  But, need I remind you that social media can be deceiving?  The fact that I have literally thousands of pictures saved from past travels and post one a day does not mean that I’m never working.  In fact, I work all. the. time.  Not only do I work more than 40 hours a week at a law firm, but I have developed several additional sources of income that keep me busy even when I’m not at my full time job.  For example, right now I’m writing this blog post.  There are about one thousand other things I would rather be doing.  However, I know that this is what I need to do to continue to live the lifestyle I want to live.  So instead of watching other people do it and calling them lucky, I do it myself 🙂
  4. There is such a thing as posting pictures late.  I know most of us post pictures in gorgeous locations every day.  That doesn’t mean we are always there though.  Most of us take literally hundreds of pictures a day when we are traveling.  Instead of annoying everyone with hundreds of posts in one day, we post one or two and save the rest for later.  That means we have thousands of leftover pictures to choose from.  In fact, more often than not, I’m probably not at whatever location I post a picture from on a given day.  I think the same is true for a decent amount of other “lucky” people.